3 Dating Tips That Bring Love and Wealth

…I used to think that being a woman in our modern society it was ok for me to ask men out or even pay for some of our dates…

…was I wrong!

…as a lady, once I stopped asking men out and once I started only letting men pay for dates, I found dating a whole lot easier…

…why?

…well, according to the book Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate
by Patti Stranger, in our society, men are the ones who are expected to pay and that they even like to pay because it makes them feel strong, manly and in control…

…also, it’s one way to find out if your man has his finances together or not…

…as a woman, we have to take care of making ourselves attractive and being vulnerable and loving and open…(which also takes money…)

…so we spend our money on making ourselves the best and most attractive that we can, for us to feel sexy and for the man to want to be around us…

…once I figured it out, dating got so much better!

…I would read the book to get all of the details…

…if you are a man, pay for the lady…she worked hard to look that good and to be the noble woman that she is…

…if you are a woman, let the man pay for the dates…

…I was once dating a man who was extremely poor…

…I was not happy with his financial situation, as I was the one who had the car and drove us around and had the nicer place where we would stay together…

…instead of just breaking up with him…

…I decided to use money to end the relationship…

…I gave him money to help him with his business, and when he didn’t use the money wisely, I got so angry that I dumped him…

…it is naive to think that you can change someone…

…now, deep down in my heart, I knew that he was satisfied and happy with being poor…

…and that he also enjoyed having me spend money on our relationship…

…instead of just breaking up and keeping my money, I felt the need to somehow give him something so that I would feel righteous in breaking up!

…I just saw a movie, The Longest Week, where one of the main characters gives women that he wants to break up with a Volvo…

…for the same reason, he wants to break up and doesn’t want them to feel back or too hurt so he gives them a volvo!

…it’s so easy to use money to appease feelings of guilt, hurt or shame…

…however, it’s better to look at the problem directly, and just know that your relationships are valuable and you deserve to be in the relationship that is right for you…

…just break up with the person you don’t want to be with…

…trust your feelings and just move on…

…everything always works out for the best in the end…

…so when is it a good time to talk about money when dating?

…well, it’s when dating gets serious…meaning, you are falling in love and you only want to be with this person…

…that’s when you start talking about your true feelings and see if they feel the same…

…and you also talk about your money situation…

…if you owe money, or if you can support someone with your money, whatever it is…

…discuss it, and find out how you both handle your money…

…most relationships that end because of money are because there was not honest and authentic communication about it…

…as long as both of you feel comfortable about handling money, money will support your relationship together…

…here are some quick tips on what to talk about: savings and retirement for the future, spending habits, any debt, what you both want to spend your money on and what you currently spend your money on…